The week that was!!

Bloody hell, what a week!!!!
It has been absolutely ridiculously busy and quite frankly I NEED A BLOODY LONG HOLIDAY NOW!!!!!!!!! Sorry to shout!

I love my job dearly but at the moment I feel I do nothing else but work. I've pulled 12 hour days this week, spent my life running around after students and staff and am now getting an ear ache and cough. Boo!!!

But tonight I am a happy chicken cos Im off to Dubai (with just about the whole of the western expat population) for the Rugby Sevens. Ah I am looking forward to meeting up with old friends, drinking some champagne and watching men in small shorts and relatively tight tops run around, sweat and basically exude testosterone- Be still my beating heart, I don't think I can take the excitement! Even better, they bring you buckets of beer in the stands- Woo Hoo!!!

I have enclosed some reasons for the ladies to get into rugby. You have the lovely Jonah Lomu, Johnny Wilkinson and Glen Jackson- mmmmmm!!!! (Yes I know how hypocritical I'm being and yes I am turning into a dirty old woman by the second!)

For Swair who's words are wise!!!

If I ever see this T-shirt I will buy it for you!!!!!

Pissed off Pinky!

OK, so here it goes. I have decided that partly I bring the man related unhappiness on myself. I want your opinions!

So, here is the history of the lives and loves of Pinky!

Man no. 1 Asshole, cheated on me, told me and I said naughty boy, don't do it again. We split after 6 months but dated regularly over the next 3 years and he continued to be an arsehole with no sense of responsibility for the entirety.

Man no. 2 Lovely and I cocked it up big style. Dated for 2 years he worshipped the ground I walked upon, I moved to a different part of the country to be with him, we were really happy. However, I decided that I was too settled and broke up with him but proceeded to mess him around for the next year, I firmly took his heart and squished it into the ground. By the time I'd worked out that I really did love him he'd moved on to his now wife.

Man no. 3 Asshole, dated for 2 years, lived together, bought various big items together. Everything had to be on his terms nd if I didn't do what he wanted his stock standard response was "I'll leave". Eventually I worked out it was better to be alone than unhappy with someone. He used the I'll leave tactic and I said, I've been hearing that for the last 6 months, your still here, he left, owing me rather a lot. It was awful at the time but a good learing experience. I did vow never to let anyone dick me about like that again

Man no. 4 Player! He thought it was ok to cheat on me with one woman in states and another in Q8, I said "khalas, I don't need this shit and walked"

Man no. 5 The latest of a bad bunch. Spent the last two years being messed around by him and still I let him piss me off. I am convinced now that I know he is an utter Bastard but still I allow him to wind me up. He spent last thursday staring at me for 3 hours then left the party with another woman and spent the whole of tonight pawing said woman right under my nose (for someone who claim to love me he has a fucking lot to learn)- YUCK!

What to do, I seem to date serial bastards. Leopards do not ever change their spots so why the hell do I think they will suddenly become stripy?

If you've read Romeo and Juliet you'll be familiar with the term Patrarchan love - it's what Romeo has for Rosaline and all it does is make him unhappy. He's kind of in love with being miserable, I'm worried thats how I'm ending up? Equally I don't know how to change the way I feel and a behaving in relationships, am I destined to be a doormat forever??? Have I cocked up my only chance???
ARGHHHH!!!

I don't know what I think now, this blog is my way of vocalising my feelings and confusions so if they don't make sense to you have faith that they make even less sense to me!
I think the quote above is spot on!

Woo hoo!!! Holiday! C'mon let's celebrate!!!

Well despite all the other crap thats going on I am off to Dubai weekend after next and I am sooooooo excited!!!
I am going to go skiing, wild wadi'ing and watching rugby (men in small shorts-phwoarghhh!!!). All will be washed down with a little pint of heineken!!
I may also find time for a little shopping and visit the cultural centre too.
We are now on countdown 10 days to go!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dubai Explorer

Right you bloggers, I need some assistance. I'm off to Dubai in a few weeks to go see some strapping men in little shorts throw a ball around a rugby pitch and need some inspiration of what to do when I'm not watching rugger with a beer in my hand.
I've not been to Dubai in a good 10years so need as many suggestions as I can get. So far I want to
1. Go Skiing
2. Go to Wild Wadi

If you have anything to recommend please let me know!!!!!!

p.s. The music is an ode to a very special someone who I think may have bitten off a hell of a lot more than he can chew!

Procrastination is the key!!!

Oh yes, the pile of exercise books I have to mark is breeding on my dinning table and I am about to drown under it. I love my job but woah do I hate correcting the books!
I am almost about to tidy my sock drawer, walk, clean belly button fluff etc etc to get out of doing it!
So, there seems to be rather a lot going on in the blogosphere at the moment. People going off on road trips to lebanon, Gulf Run is about to happen again - I want to go!!! The all encompassing theme of men = hard bloody work seems to have revived itself again as well.

When true procrastination is needed I always reach for the life comment (above) and write a list of aims

Aims for this week /weekend
1. Sobriety!!!
2. Stay away from The Man!
3. If man is out where I am avoid contact, do not give in to temptation to have a drink, keep the hell away from my mobile, send no text messages (they can only lead to heartbreak and awkward conversations) and by no means will I scratch the eyes from any woman that accompanies him!!!
4. On no account will I spend money
5. Walk or cycle each day
6. Go through wardrobe and work out which clothes fit again- yippeee!!!

Right, to the books I go!!!!

Interesting!

After my mad ranting posts of last night about fidelity being an issue in this part of the world I was very amused to read an article on the Arab Times website about just such a thing!
Here you go:

‘Be faithful, protect family’; Society shuns talk on spouse cheats

KUWAIT CITY: Despite the prevalence of marital infidelity in Arab societies, there is a dearth of studies done on the issue due to the customs and traditions in the region making the topic a taboo in the Arab world, Dr Alia Shuaib said in her show entitled ‘Under Shade’ aired Sunday on Al-Watan TV. With Attorney Dawim Al-Muwaizri and the Kuwait University teaching staff as guest panelists on the show, where they discussed marital infidelity issues in the Arab region, Shuaib pointed out “infidelity is a morality issue that we prefer not to discuss to avoid humiliation. In spite of its negative impact on society, even the experts refuse to tackle the issue due to cultural considerations.” Talking about the different phases of infidelity, Shuaib explained “the first phase begins theoretically through the Internet and satellite channels, which give the public easy access to immoral publications while the second phase is what we call the ‘acting out’ stage wherein people fulfill their sexual fantasies through extramarital affairs.”

Al-Muwaizri, on the other hand, said the Court deals with a multitude of infidelity cases daily besides reports filed at the police stations, which often end up in divorce. Disclosing that Kuwait’s divorce rate recently increased by 30 per cent, he said three out of ten marriages are successful while the rest usually end in divorce. He believes that lack of moral discipline and proper upbringing are the two major factors pushing people to betray their spouses. Emphasizing there is no justification for a man to betray his wife, Al-Muwaizri said a man who betrays his wife is sick as he seems to focus only on the pleasure he will get from such an immoral act, forgetting its negative impact on his family and the society in general. He added the law is biased as it allows husbands to monitor the activities of their wives and record their calls in case of doubt but women are not allowed to do the same. Generally, men cannot forgive their unfaithful wives while women often forgive their husbands to keep the family intact.

Shuaib, however, thinks the divorce rate in 2005 was higher than 30 per cent indicating that infidelity happens due to differences in age, educational achievements, cultural background, and social status. She also lamented the fact that society tends to be more forgiving of men having extra-marital affairs than women. She called on the concerned authorities to protect the rights of married women considering their commitment to maintain the integrity of the family. She added women have the ability to detect signs of betrayal even at its early stage. At the end of the show, Shuaib asked one of the panelists to monitor programs aired on satellite TV channels based on religious principles. She also stressed the need for husbands and wives to remain faithful to each other and maintain the stability of the family.

By Jamil Al-Pasha
Special to the Arab Times

World AIDS day- 1st December 2007

Right, after last night's tirade here comes the sensible post.
I was working the iPod this morning and my favourite Freddy Mercury songs wereplaying. It doesn't feel like 16 years since he died of AIDS. I am a great believer that the world lost someone very special on the 24th November 1991.

So my next thought was why do we never hear anything about World AIDS day in Kuwait? I know all expats are blood tested to get residency but there is AIDS in Kuwait.
If you check the US government's World Factbook it says there is a 0.12% prevalence of HIV and AIDS in Kuwait. Small I know but surely the fact that this issue is a definite taboo in Kuwait means it can only grow?

Perhaps this is an issue that should be more freely discussed? I know I have never seen anything about it out here. I know Kuwait is a very different society to the UK but the times are changing, perhaps people's attitudes should too??

Will you be wearing your red ribbon on December 1st?

My Music for the next week will be Freddy Mercury and Queen music. I hope you like it!

Freddy Mercury (5 September 1946 – 24 November 1991)

WTF??? Men!!!

OK, I warn you, here comes a tirade!

I have just been reading Chika's post on Men wanting Women on their terms and it has firmly empowered me.

Chika, you are so right about men and their lack of fidelity. There are far too many that need a firm kick in the nuts from time to time!

I am a young, intelligent, positive young woman. OK, I'm not a size zero but I am happy and bubbly and thats what matters.

I am not a man hating, bra burning Dyke. I am a woman who has frequently been disappointed by the men who have been in her life. One day (hopefully not too far away) I really want to get married and have kids but I want to do that with a man who is respectful to me and knows how to behave towards me and other women when he is with me.

I don't think I'm going to find that man in Kuwait unfortunately for the following reasons.

1. The expat men that are out here tend to be married. I'm not into infidelity, I will not be the other woman.

2. There are very few expat men out here that are aged below 50, are single, straight, don't need a frontal lobotomy or a personality transplant and are not a complete W@nKer!

3. I am not going to randomly give my number to blokes I meet in Marina Mall, sorry I'll leave that to my students, I need to know if a man interests me on an intellectual basis not only if I like the look of him.

4. A number of the local men I have met have been looking for a size zero bimbo who looks good on their arm and knows when to shut up but has very little between the ears. Not me- I have curves and a brain for a reason

5. Local men are looking for a quick fling and what they can't get from the Kuwaiti girls their mothers want them to marry! A lot look at western women as loose and treat them in the way they treat their hookers-badly!

6. I do not want to spend time with a guy that thinks I'm only good enough to meet his male relatives down the chalet on a Friday afternoon with a drink in his hand. If I'm not good enough to be introduced to his mother he is not good enough for me!

7. I love Kuwait, it is my home but the poligamy thing is beyond me. Some men out here love it. Wife number one gets a bit old, pops out a couple of kids and gets a bit boring and domesticated, I know, I'll get a new one.
There is no wonder that Arab men struggle with the concept of fidelity. They are told from day one that they can have their cake and eat it and that it is OK (morally, religously and legally) to cheat. SHINU HATHER????

8. Some of the strongest women I have ever met are Kuwaiti and I respect them fully. Unfortunately a lot of their men don't!!!

I am so cheesed off with being crapped on from a great height. I am not going to put up with this bullshit again.

Khalas I am done with it I deserve better than this crap!

PAIT!!!

It is a major case of Hallelujah the week is done. I am shattered. Too much shit going on at school, at home in UK, at home in Kuwait. I can't wait for this week to be done and dusted. I also have a house guest for the next few weeks just to add another level of chaos. It will be good to have my guest here but it's always hard sharing your space!
Hope everyone else has a lovely weekend!
Pinky!!!!!

6kgs down!

Well, I am super-duper impressed with myself. After being on my diet boxes for about 6 weeks I have lost 6kgs. I have worked my butt of with exercise and can now wear some clothes I haven't been able to for ages!!! Yippeeeeeeee!

What a day!!!

It's been crazy crazy today! After yesterdays excitement I thought I'd have a relatively calm and serene day but no, you guessed it, not a prayer! Spent the morning in the Avenues which I swear grows larger by the second and the muppets have changed the entrance off the 5th ring so yes, you guessed it, I had a lovely drive round deepest, darkest Al Rai before getting into the car park! Half of the mall was on sale so I had to peruse and then the magnet gravitational pull of IKEA dragged me in.
I want to own a massive house with a pointy roof and view of the sea to fill to the brim with IKEA furniture (oh yes, did I mention I need a millionaire husband to pay for it too??) and a garden with flowers and real green grass to get my toes into and roll around on at every opportunity. Then I'll have a lovely pretty blue coloured Volkswagen Tuareg 4x4, Aston Martin Vanquish and a Sunseeker motor yacht to drive at my convenience. And 2 lovely children that are always angelic, clean and never have snotty noses!!!!
Got a bit carried away with that one didn't I.....I tell you it was the thought of a garden that did it.
Have changed the music on my blog again. I'm a little eclectic and the flugtag tunes inspired yesterdays bouncy music. Today I had my favourite playlist on very loud as I tidied my flat and sang my little heart out to Tomorrow by James, so yes here it is!!!

Flugtag Fun!

Well, spent the day on the beach by the Marina Hotel watching the flugtag yesterday afternoon and it was quite good fun!
Very few of the "planes" actually flew very far but all crashed and splashed with style. Must be quite frustrating when you've put months of work into something to see it end up in a heap on the beach after about 15 seconds! I think my favourite design wise was the Bahraini Baby Bottle complete with Nappy clad captain! There were also some fab kites flying, I loved the massive stingray one!
To top it off the music was good as well. Minimal American R and B more cool music, I heard everything from Men at work to Deelite!